UNBECOMING HER
“Finding yourself" is not really how it works. You aren't a ten-dollar bill in last winter's coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people's opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. "Finding yourself" is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.”
~ Emily McDowell
Unraveling the Roles That No Longer Serve You
You’ve always been the dependable one - the woman who says yes, delivers excellence, and keeps everything running smoothly. On the surface, your life appears successful and well-orchestrated. But beneath that polished exterior lies a quiet voice wondering:
Who would I be if I stopped trying so hard to be everything for everyone?
This isn't a crisis; it's an unraveling. As Brené Brown describes, it’s when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders and whispers, “All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—have to go.”
Somewhere along the way, being good—pleasing others, performing perfectly, never making waves—became your identity.
You learned how to be the “Good Girl” before you ever learned how to be you.
The perfectionism, the relentless people-pleasing, the need to control—these were once protective strategies. They helped you navigate a world that demanded much from you. But now, they feel like constraints, keeping you from embracing your authentic self.
In our work together, we'll explore:
The origins of your perfectionist and people-pleasing tendencies
The impact these patterns have on your well-being and relationships
The process of shedding these roles to reconnect with your true self
How to rediscover who you are—especially if you’ve never really known
This isn’t just about doing less or setting boundaries.
It’s about finally meeting and accepting the parts of you that were never given permission to exist.
People-Pleasing & Perfectionism
“I reached out to Katherine during my lowest of lows, and her holistic approach combined with brainspotting has been life changing in all aspects of my life as a busy working professional trying to juggle it all.
I had some reservations about working with Katherine, after endlessly circling around with CBT with a previous therapist; but all my anxiety and fears went away with Katherina's calm, patient, and completely judgement-free demeanor. She listens and guides. Katherine brought the most cutting edge, scientifically and clinically proven methods and approaches to each session to help me find the right channels to achieve true healing, trauma processing, and the mental/emotional preparation for maintaining long-term balance and success.
Katherine's approach is the real deal, and I appreciate that she empowers me with the tools that keep myself in tune to focus on the things that matter most to me.”
~ LL